Thank you!

Thanks to everyone for a great show Thursday! I was having a hard week that day and you guys really pulled me through. Listening to other people’s stories always lifts me up and that night was just what I needed.

Yousaf started us off by telling the story of everything he had to go through to take the GMAT multiple times because the internet kept losing his scores. Finally, after getting GMAT HQ on the phone and yelling in at least two different languages they were able to find his test in the Great Cloud and he made it into business school. He had a wonderful ending to the story where he talked about the importance of staying in the moment and “watching the water boil.” I love that phrase. I’d never heard it before but the next day I got out my old glass percolator and purposefully watched the water boil. Thanks, Yousaf.

Behnaz followed with a story about learning to make new friends and start dating after her divorce. It involved numerous Meetup brunches, a woman asking her to punch her in the face, and in the end, deciding to freeze her eggs in case it took a while to find the right man. This is what it’s like trying to date in Seattle. After a few weeks online you think, “It looks like this is going to take a while so I better freeze my eggs.” Thank you, Behnaz, for making me laugh days after the show is over.

Emily was next with a story about her younger sister nagging her to get a Roth IRA. As Emily was telling this story I remembered my dad saying the same thing to me 30 years ago when I was making $8/hour and more worried about putting gas in the car than retirement. Emily’s sister was relentless, though. Did you know there’s a difference between a savings account and an emergency fund? Did you know there are people who regularly save 15% of their income in their savings account? Who are these people?? Right now I’m worth way more dead than alive which is something my son just realized so now I can’t turn my back on him. The older I get, the more I think everyone should have a sister like Emily has. Sometimes all you need is one forward-looking, detail-oriented person in your life to make you do the thing you don’t want to do.

Deborah, one of our new regulars, showed us why it’s ok to lie to strangers who show up on your doorstep asking you out on a date. Apparently, people do this. Never feel guilty about lying to strangers who show up on your doorstep asking for something! Unless they’re selling Girl Scout cookies. And they better have Samos because I’m not shelling out good money for Thin Mints. But seriously. Don’t feel bad about lying to strangers to get out of a situation. If you want to start dating, do it the old-fashioned way. Join Meetup, go to some group brunches, take a martial arts class, and freeze your DNA. 

Vicki, a first-timer from Los Angeles, told a great story about going in for a sleep study to see if she had sleep apnea. I don’t know if she could see me cracking up but she told one of the funniest stories I’ve heard in a long time. Her impression of the sleep study nurse was perfect and I wish I could share it to show how much feeling you can squeeze into a story just by changing your voice a bit. I relistened to her story a few minutes ago and cracked up again each time she played the nurse character. So good! Thank you, Vicki, for that amazing story. I’m sad you live in LA and can’t make it to FGS when we go back onstage. If you ever come to Seattle, make sure you’re here on the third Thursday of the month. I’ll guarantee a spot on the show for you.

Gretchen closed out our show with a story I call, “Panic at 1,000 Feet.” It was the story of her first panic attack which happened on the observation deck of 94th floor of the John Hancock building in Chicago. I’m so happy when people tell stories about the times they were scared. It makes me feel better about the times I was scared. I’ve had a few panic attacks over the years and Gretchen described it perfectly. I had to laugh when she talked about her date who ran right across the floor and pressed his face against the glass like a toddler at Sea World. Meanwhile, Gretchen was back near the elevator on her hands and knees trying to crawl to safety.

Thanks again to everyone who told a story and shared something sweet in the chat room. Our next show is March 17. The theme is “The Hardest Thing – Stories of walking through the fire.” I’ll get the invite out as soon as I can. I’m crossing my fingers that March will be our last Zoom show and that we can go back to our Starbucks for the April show. I’m trying not to get too excited in case there’s another delay but I gotta admit I’m dying to see everyone again 🙂

Take care. Write me at freshgroundstories at gmail dot com if you have any questions or want some help on a story. The next workshop is Sunday, March 6. RSVP if you’d like to work on a story there. Dave is a great coach and runs a super helpful workshop: https://www.meetup.com/Fresh-Ground-Stories-Storytelling-Workshop/events/283803238/

Don’t forget about Emily’s storytelling show Locally Fameless on March 10.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/locallyfameless/?ref=page_internal

Tickets: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/locally-fameless-storytelling-show-fremont-abbey-tickets-265632432757?aff=erelexpmlt

Paul
freshgroundstories@gmail.com

See you this Thursday!

Hi Everyone,

I’m looking forward to seeing you on Zoom this Thursday! 

We still have spots available so send me an email between now and Thursday if you’d like to tell a story (freshgroundstories@gmail.com)

Here’s the theme for the show: 

FGS: For Better or Worse – Stories of acting out of character
https://www.meetup.com/Fresh-Ground-Stories/events/283544630/

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Paul

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FGS: “For Better or Worse – Stories of acting out of character”

“Acting out of character” is one of those phrases that can mean completely different things depending on who says it to you. If your parents say it, you’re probably about to get a lecture. If your life coach says it, you’re probably about to get a gold star on your vision board. I like it when the same words could be cause for celebration or shame.

This month, we’d love to hear a story about a time when you acted out of character, either in a good way or a bad way. Were you a straight-A student who stole a car? Did you break a promise once that you still haven’t forgiven yourself for? Maybe you were the shyest kid in school who somehow worked up enough courage to ask your crush for a dance at the prom. 

What did you do and what were the consequences? Did you end up never doing it again or was it something so good that you promised yourself you’d do more of it?

I hope you bring that story to next month’s show on February 17th. Remember to practice your story out loud on as many people as possible and time yourself when you’re doing it. All stories have to be under 8 minutes. Stories can be as short as you want but not over 8 minutes. If your story goes long, someone else who practiced for weeks might not get a chance to tell. Stories also have to be clean in both language and content. Send me an email or give me a call if you have any questions about that.

The rest of the rules and guidelines are below:

Workshops are a great way to get feedback on a story you’re working on. Here is one I highly recommend:  https://www.meetup.com/Fresh-Ground-Stories-Storytelling-Workshop/

Here are four short articles by one of my favorite storytellers with all kinds of good advice on the kind of stories we’re looking for at FGS:
https://jeff-simmermon.medium.com/?p=cc29027b8cd8
https://jeff-simmermon.medium.com/how-to-structure-a-funny-story-d1730535f81b
https://jeff-simmermon.medium.com/this-is-a-boring-shark-attack-8-rules-for-fascinating-storytelling-3b9d2bab6dca
https://jeff-simmermon.medium.com/this-ice-cream-will-heal-your-heartbreak-how-to-find-your-storys-north-star-b818f50250ab

I’m also happy to help people with their stories. Send me an email and we can set up a phone call.

This is the best book I’ve ever read on personal storytelling:

Here is a short piece by the author of the book on what questions to ask yourself when you start working on a story (it’s about halfway down the blog post): https://mailchi.mp/104f63f44a5a/you-should-be-able-to-answer-this-question-before-ever-telling-your-story?e=a4dd06ea14

We’ll be on Zoom again unless the indoor mask mandate changes. Now is a great time for our out-of-town tellers to share more stories with us!

I’ll send out the Zoom link to everyone on the Monday before the show which is February 14th..

I hope to see a bunch of you on the 17th!

Paul
freshgroundstories@gmail.com

Thank you!

Thanks to everyone who came out to the show last Thursday. We had a good mix of regulars and first-timers and that always makes me happy.

Gretchen started us off with a story about a do-it-yourself hospital she found herself in after experiencing some mysterious pains. The most important thing we learned from Gretchen that night is that it’s never good news when your doctor tells you to move your car to long-term parking. I think that’s going to be my first question whenever my doctor calls me in with lab results. “Will I be needing short or long-term parking, Doc?”

Bev was next with a story about taking care of a room full of students who didn’t get to go on a school field trip. Everyone needs a teacher like Bev who goes out of her way to make a kid feel wanted. Education is important but it’s hard to learn when you feel like you’re a burden. I was lucky enough to have a few teachers who saw through my problems and made me feel wanted. I’m glad those kids had Bev.

Deborah followed Bev with a story about the gratitude she learned driving around the country pulling a tiny trailer she and her husband camped in. I laughed out loud when she described her husband’s frustration at her indecipherable hand signals whenever she tried to help him back up. I wouldn’t be surprised if backward hand signals were responsible for at least 10% of divorces nationally. The secret to a long, happy marriage might be only using pull-through parking in RV parks. But as frustrating as some of their trips were, Deborah managed to find joy and gratitude once she realized how fortunate they were just to be able to take those trips. Thich Nhat Hanh probably has a book on that but without all the trailer references.

Mary then told a story that took a lot of courage. She told us about her marriage of 53 years that started off rough. Real rough. But over time it got better. In fact, her husband of half a century was sitting in the room with her as she told her story. I wish more people, especially parents, talked about how much work relationships take. Mary’s daughter and granddaughter were in the audience that night. I hope they were proud of her. I wish my dad had talked to me about the meaningful relationships in his life. Even the ones that ended bad. Especially the ones that ended bad. It would have put my own struggles and failures in perspective. I think I wouldn’t have been so hard on myself if I had known my dad struggled too with trying to make things work. Thank you, Mary, for showing us that sometimes relationships take years of work and patience to get to the good stuff. 

Our last two tellers were first-timers but you wouldn’t know it by how compelling their performances were.

Zac told the story of he and his partner Karen going to Burma in the early part of their relationship to see how they handled stressful situations. I get the feeling Zac is kind of an all-or-nothing kind of guy. Most of us would take our sweetheart to a concert we aren’t sure they’d like. Or maybe to a family reunion where we could leave early if things got testy. Not Zac. He talks Karen into going to a country where they don’t speak the language and getting into a cab driven by a guy who may or may not live in a bush. Zac did a fantastic job telling this story. It involved stacks of cash secreted on their bodies, some crying in the back seat, possible organ trafficking, and ultimately the realization that most of our fears in life are completely unfounded, and no matter where you go you’re going to run into far more good people than bad. One of my favorite things about this story is that most if it takes place in the minds of Zac and Karen. The whole story was just the ride from the airport to the hotel yet it was also an emotional ride from confusion to fear to panic and then understanding and resolution. Thank you, Zac. I hope you come back and tell more stories with us.

Our final teller was Jamie with a story about saving her brother’s wedding in Malaysia during Covid. She worked on it with me over the phone for two weeks and she really nailed it. Even though I’ve heard the story a bunch of times, I still can’t believe she pulled it off. Somehow she managed to host a wedding in 100 degree heat, with friends and family in multiple rooms, continents, and time zones, and a minister who Zoomed in from across town. Most importantly, she was able to be there for her brother who had always been there for her. From beginning to end you could feel the love Jamie has for her brother. Love is a great way to end a story and also a great way to end an evening. Thank you, Jamie.

Thanks to everyone who came out and supported our tellers. One of our tellers had ether mic or wifi problems during the show so I rescheduled her for next month. I wish I knew more about tech to help everyone out with this stuff. All I know is that corded mics are better than Bluetooth mics. Using an ethernet cord is better than wifi. And sometimes tablets/iPads don’t have enough computing power to handle a big Zoom meeting so consider using a laptop. I don’t know if any of those things were what our teller was dealing with that night but that’s all I can think of. Feel free to get ahold of me if you want to do a test Zoom on your equipment. I’m happy to do that any day before the day of the show. I’m also happy to put you on the next show if you have any tech problems during your story. It happens to everyone and I want to make sure you get a chance to tell the story you practiced all month on.

Next month’s show is on February 17. The theme is “For Better or Worse – Stories of acting out of character.” I’ll get the invite out as soon as I can.

Don’t forget, our free monthly workshop is coming up on Sunday, February 6. It’s run by the amazing Dave K and is a great place to get feedback on stories you’re working on.

Remember to write me directly at freshgroundstories at gmail dot com if you have any questions or want help on a story. Replies to these emails through the Meetup system doesn’t usually work for some reason.

Take care. See you soon.

Paul

freshgroundstories@gmail.com

See you this Thursday!

Hi Everyone,

I’m looking forward to seeing you on Zoom this Thursday! 
We still have spots available so send me an email between now and Thursday if you’d like to tell a story.

The theme for the show is  “Unexpected Goodness – Stories of things working out better than expected.”
https://www.meetup.com/Fresh-Ground-Stories/events/282845143/

Below is the Zoom info. See you soon 🙂

Paul

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